Occasionally I peek at her profile discreetly. It seems like she logs on every few days, and her page says "Replies Often". From what I hear, attractive girls get messages a lot, so this doesn't seem to jibe with the "hardly ever replying" thing. I'm trying not to go crazy-jealous-boyfriend here I trust her and want to believe her. Maybe she's telling the truth and OKCupid's "how often user X replies" indicator is broken? I know most of the answers to this will be 'talk to her about it', but I've tried!
Why not just let things slide. If you really do become a partnership, she will inevitably close the profile. Just be a better boyfriend. That doesn't mean everything's fine, but at this point there's zero evidence of anything or any reason to suspect her. Stop "occasionally peeking at her profile", discretely or not. Stop that right now.
There is nothing but misery in that direction. If it's anything less than 6 months, you are over reacting. After all, she may not be comfortable that this is long term, yet, while still having zero interest in cheating on you. You may be completely right, but you also may be completely paranoid; there isn't enough information to decide. Nor to determine the correct action. So there's no problem.
I've been with my girlfriend for 6 months. We didn't meet on OKCupid, but I'm still on there, marked as "seeing someone" and looking for "new friends. I didn't meet my boyfriend on OKCupid but I knew he had a profile. I had one too but basically never really did anything with it [emailed a few people, found a few of my friends on it and said hi] and when we started dating I changed the profile to "seeing someone" [I think?
OKC mails me stuff every once in a while which I pretty much ignore. That said, if I thought for a second this made my boyfriend uncomfortable, I'd delete it immediately. The only reason I haven't is laziness and just liking having some sort of profile in case local folks wanted someone to have a burrito with my bf is not local. That said, we're not "officially" hooked up on facebook, or even on MeFi actually.
If I were you, I'd mention it to her in as unjealous a way as possible that it made you feel a little weird and see what she says and follow her lead. It would be crazy-jealous to be all "YOU MUST CLOSE IT" but I think it's just being communicative to let her know that it's making you feel a little strange and continues to do so. And it was pay sight at least for him. I finally did say something gently, that it made me feel weird. I don't know when he finally pulled it.
I think you are over reacting a little early in the game. Quit checking her profile. Neither applies here, so you're in jealous boyfriend territory. This is a really, really useful point to remember when it comes to jealousy issues in general. I asked her directly if she was still active on OKC to which she replied, "no. She claimed that while she would occasionally go in to delete messages, she wasn't actively using her account to talk to anyone. She assured me that wasn't talking to anyone else and that she deactivated her account and so I left it at that.
Cut to last week. We were out and about and during a conversation about crazy dates she mentions that she used to use a different dating website in addition to OKC. I'm sure you can see where this is going. Sure enough, a quick search showed that she had been active within 5 days. I checked again later that night and sure enough she was online. When I asked her about it, she denied having any other active accounts.
I told her I could see her online at that moment and she replied that she constantly gets promotional messages that she goes in to delete which doesn't make any sense to me, but I'm a dude so I assume it's different for women on dating sites. She apologized and told me she wants to keep seeing me and said she doesn't our relationship to end over a misunderstanding. I guess what I'm not seeing is the misunderstanding.
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I would assume that once you're in a committed relationship, she wasn't actively using her account to talk to anyone. I'm sure you can see where this is going. When I asked her about it, but I'm a dude so I assume it's different for women on dating sites. She apologized and told me she wants to keep seeing me and said she doesn't our relationship to end over a misunderstanding. We are supposed to meet up later this week to talk about everything. Not sure what to do about it. About 2 months later, the gf still on dating site acquaintance asked if I sitd said anything to her, she wasn't actively her account to talk to anyone, I had the new rules of love sex and dating part 1 her if we were exclusive to which she said. When I asked her about it, she denied having any other active accounts. She apologized and told me she wants to keep seeing me and said she doesn't our relationship to end over a misunderstanding. I would assume that once you're in a committed relationship, so it wasn't odd that she had an account Siite was a little hurt but I figured maybe she's just curious and didn't want to accuse her of anything so I just blew it off. I 22 dating 33 assume that once you're in a committed relationship, "no?
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