I Personality flaws The root cause of single motherhood is usually that they're the result of bad decisions, and those bad decisions were the result of personality flaws of one sort or another on part of the mother. And while the feminine imperative has pushed an awful lot of propaganda down our collective throats of how awesome and selfless and great and competent and all-round angelic beings single mothers are; reality is more that the average single mother is actually a pretty sub-par woman.
It's not that women who aren't single mothers can't have their more questionable character traits - it's that single moms are almost guaranteed to have them. Often enough, a single mother ends up in her situation because she simply didn't think things through. Having a kid is no cakewalk, especially not if you have to take care of all by yourself, yet she did it anyway. And this isn't the result of just a single bad decision, but of a string of them: She decided to have sex with the wrong guy, she didn't properly take care of contraceptives, she didn't abort, and she didn't put her baby up for adoption.
She made one stupid call after another and as a result she's burdened by a little bundle of joy that has cost her her easymode; and now she's surprised how hard it is to get by or to find a date because men aren't falling over themselves to take care of her and her kid. While low FTO usually plays into this, oftentimes her choice of partner is a red flag in itself. The woman in question either had sex with a guy who didn't care at all; or with a guy above her league who just didn't care enough for her.
Or the guy didn't bail, but was such a shitty partner that she ultimately left. Either way, the fact that she has a kid by that guy tells you a lot about her. This is basically the other side of 2 - in this case the stupid decision isn't that she picked an unreliable or abusive guy she was attracted to, but that she picked a guy she wasn't attracted or to whom she stopped being attracted. Whether she left because she wasn't happy or made him leave because she sucked the happiness out of him - both outcomes don't reflect well on her, especially considering that she had a kid by him.
This is the case when the woman didn't have a kid by accident, but intentionally went through with the pregnancy because she hoped to be able to lock down the guy. Whether she succeeded for a time or not is secondary; the fact is that she was willing to put pressure on a guy she suspected wasn't willing to stay with her insufferable: This is when she has dated a dude who had ample reason for wanting to leave her despite the kid if he didn't but still left, it's a case of 2.
Maybe he was a decent guy who was just too frustrated to continue to put up with her, maybe he was an asshole himself, but at the end of the day she drove him away and therefore had a huge part in the breakup. These points can occur alone or in combination the only ones that are mutually exclusive are 2 and 3 , they can be black and white and shades of grey f. If you want to err on the safer side, consider all these hard rules.
Out of all the single mothers I got to know, all except two were already undatable for one or more of the personality flaws mentioned above alone without going into the reasons mentioned below. Apparently the government will give her son free regular braces, but he requires specialized ones. I've never worn braces myself, so I don't know the nuances. Apparently they cost 9K outside of insurance.
My girlfriend has asked me if I can pay. A few months into the relationship and she thinks her new boyfriend should pay for her own 8 year old mistake. When asked why the father of the child cant pay: I told her she really needs to have a talk with her ex, that even if she personally hates him, the boy is still their son and their combined responsibility. My girlfriend said that I'm naive and don't know how complex relationships work because I'm a spoiled rich kid. The hamster starts spinning, he is naive, the relationship is complex, he doesnt understand because he is a spoiled rich kid who cant fathom how hard it is to be a single mom.
Surprised the word "abusive" didnt show up anywhere Now this guy is obviously no chump working as a second year lawyer in Manhattan, coming from a worker-class background and he can see the red-flags but he still isnt quite sure I have only four people who I consider my real, close, personal friends I have lots of friendly acquaintances, though. Three of them are men, one of them is a woman. When I told them this story, separately, all three men, with varying degrees of profanity, suggested I do not pay.
The single female she's married told me that maybe I should offer to go halfsies with the mom. Apparently he surrounds himself with a few smart men and a woman , and the woman obviously cant help to hamster a little bit.
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