I wake up every day wishing I had a partner that would send me a good morning text, someone to cuddle with, to give me a hug. Instead I wake up to no texts, no messages, nothing. I don't have a working car, can't afford to fix it or get a new one, and am going to school online which makes it hard to make friends. I've tried Meetup groups but everyone in the ones I went to were much older than me I'm Most of my life has been like this; my primary socialization is usually with my significant other and their friends.
I'm not looking so much for advice on how to make friends working on that with my therapist and will hopefully be moving to a larger city next year that'll make that easier but how to do the self-improvement thing when I'm incredibly lonely and crave socialization. I have no idea how to even begin getting to know myself because I don't like to do things alone.
Life feels meaningless having no friends to share it with. I do activities around the house and such but mostly I just feel sad and lonely. For some reason I have an easy time finding partners and I don't want to just fall back on that for my socialization needs, but I'm very close to doing so. But I feel like if I do that, I'm cheating myself in my next relationship. I've been in several relationships where I was really into the person, but it wasn't working as well as it could because I hadn't spent the proverbial "time alone" getting to know myself that's supposed to enhance future relationships.
Thankfully I don't have the clinginess problem that often comes with having no social life outside of relationships. At this time I am dealing with the problem by spending most of my time playing multiplayer games for the human interaction. By most of my time I mean, from the time I wake up to the time I go to bed, usually. But that isn't "me.
But when I leave the virtual world I'm just reminded of how alone I am and how I have been my entire life severe social anxiety growing up, so I didn't make any lasting friends in highschool or college when it would have been easier to do so. This is me in , for an idea of how long I've been trying and failing to make connections outside of relationships. Has anyone been in this situation?
How do I get to know myself when I feel like "myself" is a person that prefers doing things and going out with other people? Is it even possible to get to know myself when I hate spending most of my time alone? How do I do it? Also I'm female, if it matters. You should go do that, in groups, if possible. If the Meetup groups are too old a crowd for you, then find classes or teams or coops or theater companies or leagues or paint and wine nights or whatever, and do those things.
If you don't know what you like to do, then just pick something and go do it. As long as it's with some other people, eventually, you'll connect with someone, and then you'll not only possibly make friends, but you'll also not be sitting home alone, wishing you were with someone. It takes time spent together to make friendships and they happen over time, not necessarily immediately.
If you go to a job everyday, you usually start out making small talk. Then if you happen to click, you get into more revealing conversations or you go to lunch and after you do this for awhile, friendship happens. It seems to happen organically but the key is that you have to give it time. When I was closer to your age, I would've said HELL YEAH! Because I was into all of the same things in my early 20's, we would've gotten along perfectly fine, had all kinds of fun together, and who knows where the relationship would've went from there?
But now I'm older, in the military, and expected to be more responsible and boring lmao. I still go out clubbing some but if you were doing it all the time I would probably have to say pass. Someone who is constantly around people drinking and doing drugs all the time can both put themselves in danger and get me in trouble - 2 things I can't afford to have happen in a relationship.
It's nothing personal against these types of people, person to person I'm ok with them, but their lifestyle is simply not compatible with where I'm at right now in terms of a relationship working out. You skip out on the large social circle and become a loner by choice Do I consider you to be dateable? My only concern would be you not giving me any space and not letting me have a social circle other than you but if you're not guilty of that then it's all good imo.
See how it's not black and white? Even when the exact same guy is responding to you in each scenario his answers are different based on where he's at in his life right now. With one type of guy who has one set of values and things he needs in a gf you will be a dream come true
Should You Date Women Who Don't Have Friends?
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