I've been told before that if the person you're talking to doesn't invite you for a drink within three exchanges, they aren't cutting to the chase quick enough. But once you've established that you're interested maybe after a few days of talking, or so , it's time to finally do something about it. Someone who is content to talk to you on the site and makes no moves to ask you out or pick up on your signals to do so isn't looking to go out with you for whatever reason.
Serious pen pal red flag. It's usually a good sign when you finally move off of the site and you start texting each other. That's usually the way I let someone know I'm seriously considering meeting them or else, why bother? But if you're finding that even texting them doesn't yield any discussions about meeting up, they've pen pal-zoned you.
Is that even a thing? If not, I'm making it a thing right now. Pen that one down, and please include my bad pun. I had this happen with me a while back with a guy I was talking to on Tnder. He was fine to text me, and even Snapchat me cute pictures of his dog, but every time I tried to hang out he'd make excuses. Yes, he was in law school, but I'm a firm believer that if someone wants to see you, they'll make time for you.
And for whatever reason, this guy just really didn't want to meet in person, no matter how many hours we spent chatting it up. This is a huge red flag. If you get messaged by a person on OKCupid or even Tinder, and they live no where near you, chances are they want a pen pal, and usually of the sexting variety. You know, in person. And if that's not really a possibility, what's the point of even starting something with someone?
You know how on some people's profiles, it'll say they're interested in friendship and that's about it? And if they're upfront from the get-go that all they want is someone to talk to, it's likely you won't change their mind, as unconventional as it is. This is not always the case, but I've learned to be very cautious with someone who gets very serious very soon. If a person is already telling you their deepest, darkest secrets and you've only been chatting for a week, you guys either have some serious chemistry, or they're looking for a stranger to confide in.
There's something about the prospect of sharing feelings with someone you don't know that's extremely inviting; because they're a stranger, they're less likely to take any other side over yours because they don't know the full story. On top of that, you don't actually have to be vulnerable with someone you know. Do not forget to reply to everything he said. Talk about anything; his favorite band, color. Don't talk about yourself all the time, considering you may come off as self-centered and self-obsessed.
Know how to end the conversation. When he says he has to go or if you have to go, say something like "I'll see you tomorrow" or "talk to you later". Something that will imply future plans or chats with him. Be careful about talking to him too often. Chat with him often enough to keep in touch, but not every single day. There is a chance it will become less and less special if it becomes too frequent.
Only ask a guy out online as a last resort only. It's much better to ask him out in person. When it comes to more serious times in a relationship, never ask anybody out online. This also works with break-ups. How do I start a first conversation with a boy that I like online? Start with a 'hey' followed by a question you feel comfortable asking and answering like 'How's your day going? Try to find something you might be interested in within his answer sports, school, news, a connection you have and either show off your listening skills or your knowledge in the area..
As a general rule of thumb, though, try to keep your message sizes relatively equal. Not Helpful 1 Helpful What are good questions to ask a guy when talking online? Ask open-ended questions those that require more than a yes-or-no answer. What sports are you into? Do you like to watch, play, or both? What sorts of books and magazines do you like to read? What kind of music do you listen to, and who have you seen live? Not Helpful 3 Helpful You can tell him about a stupid incident that happened with you that day or send him jokes.
Not Helpful 12 Helpful How do I convince a guy who doesn't want to talk to talk to me? You can't force someone to talk. If he's not interested in talking to you, then don't message him. Not Helpful 15 Helpful How do I get a guy more interested in me? Be yourself and ask him questions about himself. What if he does not know me but I know him, and I texted him saying "hello," only to get a response saying "Who's this?
You'll never know what could happen if you don't try. Just mention where you know him from, like "Hey, this is [your name], I'm a friend of [mutual friend's name]," or whatever. Work on being the best version of you possible, be confident, and be yourself. Not Helpful 10 Helpful Be descriptive and funny. Not Helpful 4 Helpful How do I end contact with a guy that I am not attracted to at all after seeing his picture?
Not Helpful 1 Helpful 7. How can you get someone to chat with you first? Ask them to talk later and tell them you'll be waiting, but remember if they don't want to chat first, that's alright, too. Not Helpful 9 Helpful
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